R.I.P...my friend

Many times we might feel angry or start despising someone because we are not being able to forgive them for the mistakes they have made. Forgiving someone is not that easy and hence it requires an individual to be mentally strong while doing so. Pretending to forgive someone while in reality you might hold grudges against that individual is the biggest sin of all times.
Suppose two of your best buddies are having the worst fight of all kinds while you want to stop them from bickering and become friends. In this type of scenario two of them need to sit together and talk things out without losing their temper again. It is advisable to ask them to forgive each other for having said the rudest comments to each other. Most importantly if you are the mediator and you yourself don’t believe in the policy of forgiving others ruthlessly then you cannot possibly help others to stop fighting and ask them to follow the policy you your self don’t have confidence in.
Many start being egoistic when the time comes to apologize for one’s faults. Acknowledging our mistakes doesn’t make us small in front of others. Instead people think about us in high regard and start respecting us for our good deeds. When you apologize to the opponent make sure that your tone is right and hence, it’s not sound as if you’re doing some sort of favor by apologizing.
If another individual is saying sorry to you, then appreciate him for the step he has taken because one needs to have lot of guts before apologizing. Don’t be adamant when it comes to forgive someone. Always remember, your one mistake can either make a relationship or break a relationship.
I had a friend with whom I faced some difference in opinion and decided never to see her face gain in future! I did not confront about this issue to her, I kept it within. Slowly and gradually I started maintaining a distance and succeeded in attaining my goal. She went to UK to do her further studies while I went to Australia for mine and hence, we lost contact. Few months back I came back to my native place and met her mother in a grocery shop. She recognized me immediately. Enquiring about my friend was inevitable, the moment I asked about her there were tears in her eyes. She informed me that her daughter died in a plane crash. Though, I managed to maintain my composure in front of her the feet seemed to have given up yet I was standing in front of her, facing her. Now when I realize what mistake I have made it becomes impossible for me to forgive myself. Before you make the same mistake I made, stop yourself!



Pooja Choudhury